I know she doesnt read this so its no big deal to do some smack talking about Judy. Yes i still read her bullshit. I cant help it. Its better than daytime tv.

I finally realized why she was so vehoment about her relationship being sooo good, because its not! She really has some issues and i wish she would listen to people who actually have a clue about things.

She wont and thats why im blogging today lol.

She goes on and on about how others just wont let it go. But never realizing that if she just let it go, and really just let it go, it would go away. All you have to do is stop talking about it and stop writing about it publicly. The things that drive you mad will go away. Look what happened when i did just that. It went the fuck away and hasnt been back! To which im eternally greatful!

Another thing is, and some of us know this, that you can not expect your spouse to drop his children for you. No matter what kind of relationship they have now or in the past, you can not expect that your spouse will cut their children out of their life.

It is not the right of the step parent to be invited to everything. Its not the right of the stepparent to be invited to anything. If a child(adult or otherwise) doesnt want to include you in time with the parent they dont live with, you have to suck it up and deal with it.

I got lucky, i had a good dad. I want him included in everything. But then again maybe thats because ive had him since i was 8 years old. I dont know, but i know he did the job he was supposed to do.

Maybe when your to concerned about your relationship you forget these things. But from reading her blogs its plain to see that she is nothing but jealous of anyone who had anything to do with him before her.

If you know in your heart that something wasnt going on because you know where a person was at a specific time, then just laugh at people who try to tell you otherwise. Especially if your sure all they want to do is break up your relationship. Hell i went through that with the asshole. Some chick tried to tell me what he was doing and when he was doing it. Unfortunatly at that time everything she said could be disputed. So if you know let it go.

But dont ever think you can ask a parent to pick you over their child. No matter how old they are. If your spouse wants to disengage from their childrens life they will. But any pushing and prodding you do will just drive them further away from you.

One true thing my mom taught me was not everyone has to like you. Thats the truth about the world. Not everyone has to like you and not everyone will. Its ok.

I kind of wish i could tell her this stuff. But shes to far gone to see reason. Shes too far gone to see that not every comment is an attack. Plainly shes just to far gone into the crazy pool and noone offered her any help.

Heres to knowing that your not always number 1.