Seriously, I can't believe I forgot to blog about what my mom did for my girl K! When we were driving in from her house I told her how I'd passed along one of Mae's old coats.

Part of the zipper was broken but the coat is warm and you can still zip it. Mom bought Mae a great coat for winter. K had been trying to save money for a coat like that for Sidney. That money had to go towards the stuff I already blogged about.

Mom just up and asked if I wanted her to buy a coat for Sidney. She has the money right now, she has a coupon, she will end up getting Kohl's cash back for the purchase, she plans on using that for a hat n gloves for Sidney last I heard, and the important one...because she's been there and it's what you do if you can. Again the whole pay it forward.

I had no idea what to say. I wanted to just be all yes yes yes, thank you! thank you! thank you! But I just didn't know how to respond. I didn't know if it was something she wanted to do or if I had said something in a way that made her feel like she had to offer and didn't really want to do it.

Also would K want my mom to do that? You know that whole pride thing we have going on. I called K and told her what my mom had said and I could hear it in her voice the same questions I had had. Also, you know that lil hitch of emotion because someone is doing something nice for you.

My mom loves K. K is the keeper of the song list. My mom has a list of songs she wants played at her funeral. Well on mom's birthday, after the kiddo had gone to her dads, we all got together to party. Mom had K writing down these songs on a napkin. K is the keeper of the music! K is a part of the clan now lol.

Tomorrow Sidney will be the proud new owner of a black coat lined with leopard print fur. I can't wait to see the coat.

As much as I complain about my mother, she really is a great woman. There have been lots of people who have tried to cut me down by saying I'm just like my mother. From where I sit, there isn't anything wrong with being my mother, and I'll take it as a compliment.

She isn't doing this for any other reason than because she wants to, she can, she's been there, and someone helped her out once upon a time. Way back in the day, when $20 could be stretched a thousand ways, a woman gave her a lil help. Mom says she doesn't remember what she used the money on, but she was greatful. Someone who didn't have to do it, chose to do it and now mom is doing it.

Heres to all those people who matter!

It's no secret that I read a lot of blogs. I read blogs that are all about different things. I'm reading step-mom blogs, I'm reading my friends blogs, and I'm reading blogs on a site i joined.

Since joining that site I realized that I just don't have the time to devote to that part of my life. It would be wonderful to have that, but I just can't devote that much of my time to another person. Heck I couldn't even keep up with a group I'd joined and had to leave it. Eventually I will have the time to devote to *gasp* online group activity. Right now is not the time.

I've decided to live vicariously through others, it has it's advantages. Though I must admit it does leave me feeling a bit jealous. Anyways! I went to view the recent journals and I came across some drama.

Not a lot of drama, just someone being stupid. I have left a lot of comments on a lot of different peoples blogs. I have never said anything out of pure meanness. My comments always have to do with the blog at hand.

Well this one just ripped apart, in a way, this young girl for being with a much older man. All while stating she was tolerant of others and blah blah. I saw who wrote the offending post and because I felt no need to wade in the kiddie pool I said nothing.

My opinion however was that its real hard to throw stones when your 40+ yr old ass is hanging half naked out for the world to see. When your crouched and you have one of your tits just sagging out. The girl who was attacked is 19 and this chick is 40+. I saw the pictures of both of them and the older had some nerve.

How do you get to be 40+ years old and just still be a mean nasty bitch? Is it too much to ask that you find your happy place already and just deal with your own issues. But I think the 19yr old hit it on the head, the other was just having issues because she was jealous of many different things.

I personally know that I grow every day. I also know that if I get to my 40's and am as mean and hateful as that person, someone had better take me out to pasture!

Heres to learning to let go of all the hate and discontent in your life!

I find it incredibly crappy that some people will stay at a place til the minute they close. This is not the first job I've had where you practically have to run them off with a stick. This is the first time it's happened at this job.

I'm just a little irritated that people want to be at a store til the last minute they are opened. Do you really need to stay out with your kids, on a school night, eating out till 10. Don't these kids have school, Don't you realize its freezing outside. AND lol we want to go home! The quicker your out, the quicker we can finish.

Eh I'm just grumping about it. The night wasn't bad, just a lil frustrating at the end lol.

Here's to being nice to people who work late and NOT staying til the last minute lol

Last night was wonderful, except the hour drive home in the dark and the hour drive in this morning lol. Mom, grandpa and me all went to Mae's very first school concert!

We got there pretty early and I told mom, hey go get us some good seats. She said what are good seats. I said just go and you will figure it out! She did great! we were in the front row. We got there about 5:22 and the kids had to be in their rooms by 5:45. I'm sooo glad we were early!

By the time the program started it was standing room only and it was packed!!!

Of course I love my girl to be all pretty and dressed. I put her in her pink Christmas dress, you know the ones like santa, and a santa hat. Her teachers told me today that they couldn't leave until they found her hat because it was so cute!

I put video and pictures up on my facebook so if you're a follower there you can see it.

They laughed when Mae went and stomped during part of the song that they stomped to. Ohh it was great.

Her first concert was a success and the important people were there for her!

When I signed up for the Christmas assistance this year I was working 2 shifts a week. Child care and gas came out of my checks and out of child support came my phone and insurance bills. Leaving very little money left over. That's why I asked for help.

After asking for this help back in November, here comes December. December brings two girls at work going on maternity leave at the same time. I end up with 3 shifts a week. I was told I wasn't going to be getting 3 shifts, this was unexpected. This week I ended up with 4 shifts. Then the bonus.

Can you say hello Christmas! Since the bonus took care of half the people I had to buy for that leaves more money for Mae. Or does it?

If I was uncaring and unfeeling maybe. Since I'm not that means Mae gets two presents less. I figure that today at the assistance thing I was able to pick out a few really nice gifts for her. I even lucked out and was able to get her a doll that I didn't know she wanted, liked, or knew about until yesterday. I saw that doll and all but snatched it to put in my cart. Then Mae also has Christmas coming from the adopt a family program. She is getting a beautiful daybed from my mom and grandpa for Christmas. She has enough for Christmas now.

My girlfriend K is really struggling too. The only reason her and I have nice cars is because of taxes. Hell thats the only reason I have the internet, I pay for a year at tax time lol. But K has had some issues pop up. Her car, a window, and then some how she screwed up the electric bill. The only bill worse to mess up is the water bill. They will shut you off a minute after the hour the day your bill is late. All her money has now gone for her car and to pay the electric bill. She told me today that she has enough left to buy her two kids one gift each. She wasn't able to and couldn't afford to take time off work to sign up for Christmas assistance.

I felt horrible for her when she told me this. I know how hard she works to get by and maybe have something left over. I went out today and bought Sidney two presents to put under the tree. I wasn't asked to do it, I didn't do it to get something, I didn't do it for any other reason that it was right. I only have to buy a couple more presents and that I can do with next weeks whopper paycheck. Sidney deserves more than one present under her tree. K has been a good friend to me and I know she would do it for me.

I got to pay it forward like I've been hearing a lot of. I'm glad I can help, but it sucks that we are all in the position of being the court juggler. Not being selfish is really hard. I'm still going to get Mae another present along with the stuff I already bought her. Let me tell you Toys R Us sucks ass at Christmas. But I braved it and got her the bath toy she wanted.

Thank god we are almost back to worrying about regular bills and not extra money.

I think I need to go out and buy a lottery ticket! Yes, it has been that kind of day! One where surprises are a great thing!

It's Tuesday, meaning that it's payday! Well I was already excited about going to get my check because there would be last week's missing 6 hours on it. Well I get to work and there are two envelopes waiting. The first has my check in it and the second....drum roll...A Freaking Christmas Bonus!!!!

I have worked pleanty of jobs, and some of those jobs were even long term jobs. Never EVER in my 18 years of working have I ever gotten one. Now it wasn't a huge bonus. BUT it was a bonus..All 30 bucks of it!! Wahoo!!

Well, that was already spent lol. I had gotten a catalog in the mail, I don't know how they got my name. I'm glad they did! They have a 6 gift boxes of goodies for 36.99. Well this cataloge also came with a $10 off if you spend 25. Wahooo!! I can get people a gift for about $7 bucks each! Well with shipping it was 36.97, pretty darn good. Even if they gank ya on the shipping. 6.99 for the shipping and 2.99 for god knows what, but I needed cheap gifts, and I took the bait. Now to see if it gets here on time. Their shipping said if it was ordered by 9pm tonight it would be here. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

THEN!!!! I had to go to Wal-Mart to pick up some tights for Mae to go with her Christmas dress. Today is her Winter Concert. Her First EVER! Mom, grandpa and I are going. If your a facebook follower you will be able to see the pics and video that I take. I'll need to go through and delete some pictures first lol. Anyways!

The woman I blogged about last night works at WalMart. Well she was working still when I got there. I walked up to her and gave her a hug and said Its my favorite WalMart SCW girl!! AND AND AND!! This is where I decided I should have probably played the lotto. SHE APOLOGIZED for being crabby with me last night!! And that I was going to mop the floor thursday..big whup lol its something I always do lol.

The thing is, I have never heard her apologize to ANYONE! Wooo me!

It is a great day! Now to get myself showered, Mae a bath, dinner out of the oven, and all being ready by 5:30 when my mom picks us up. Ahhh the joys of the Christmas Season and all the joys it can bring.

Heres to buying lotto tickets lol

It was a lovely night at work! It started with a phone call asking if i was running late. Um no, its only 4. Yeaaa i was scheduled at 4 and I wrote down 5! Not good!

Then the girl who got off at 4 and I both thought the other was pissed. She figured out before I got there that I was irritated with Mae. When I realized I was late I hopped up and grabbed my shoes. Well Mae decided that this would be the best time to throw herself at me and my legs. Seriously, not a good thing. So I grouched at Mae while throwing our gear together.

Got to work and was like I am soo sorry! Here look at my schedule that I wrote down. I really thought I was in at 5. The girl wasn't mad at me, she just thought i was irritated and she was the one who should be irritated. You know how it is.

Then the person I worked with tonight, we had an issue. The issue was not mine! I was as accomodating as I could be. I wasn't upset, and I tried to explain it to her like she was 3, but I don't think she got it til we were at our cars.

I finally told her You're not used to people accomodating you and it not being an issue are you? She said no she wasn't.

Here's the deal at work. We have to clean the lobby, bathrooms, break down a hot and cold table, wrap meat, and clean a slicer. That includes sweeping, mopping, changing and taking out the garbages. Even a round with the vaccum cleaner.

Well the woman I worked with tonight is one of the women at work that they always have an issue with. She's the one who the first day I worked with her introduced herself as the bitch. Well tonight she felt like, and I'm assuming it's also from the last night she worked, she was doing all the hard labor.

I swept the bathrooms, half of the lobby, filled condiments, cleaned the sneezeguard, cleaned the reach in, started the dishes, broke down the cold table, cleaned the cold table, put the table back together, put the toppings away, tore the slicer down, washed the slicer, swept our work area twice, mopped the work area, wiped out the bottom of the reach in, wrapped the meat, cleaned the microwave,locked the walk in, turned off lights, and ordered the bread.

She squirted cleaner in the toilets, ran the vaccum over 3 black rugs, swept half the lobby, mopped the lobby, tore some paper and changed that, wiped down the tables, changed and took out the garbage, wiped down the garbage can lids, and then came over and took over the dishes from me, broke down the hot table, put hot food in the reach in, cleaned the slicer, counted money, and turned off a light.

I don't know about you, BUT that seems like a pretty equal division of the labor. It is not my fault that whoever she worked with before had her do all of it, or whatever she feels she did. The problem is that she likes to do it HER way. Deviating from her routine really puts her off and puts her in a crabby mood.

I have no problem doing it the way she wants to do it. The way she wants to do it is the way it was when I first started working with her. I did all the lobby and then came back to help tear apart the cold/hot tables and clean those as she did dishes. It's no big deal to me how we do it, as long as we do it and are out of there before 10:15 pm.

My telling her that we could do it that way next time really irritated her too. I was like I'm offering to do it your way. That set it off to it's not about doing it my way, blah blah blah!

Seriously...You are getting your way. Your getting your way and noone is bitching. Your getting your way and it was the easiest and simplest. She just couldn't accept it. I have no idea why. Though I know that come Thursday we will be doing it her way.

It's a real good thing that I can get along with pretty much anyone. It's also a pretty good thing that everyone who knows me knows that eventually I will say something if you take advantage of my good nature. So if I say it's no big deal, it's not a problem; that's what I mean. Trust that I know how to say No when I need to!

Here's to 3 more days of work and a hell of a paycheck!