I have 5 hours to get everything DONE! I still have the bathroom to clean, laundry to put in the dryer, living room to vaccum and pick up, food to cook, have to go to walmart with my list, and then pray to god that the rain stays away for good!
I got up this morning and sat out on the deck under my pink umbrella. Trying to smoke and cover me, my smoke, and the ashtray lol. Also the margarita bottles have multiplied lol. Now we have a full one and two half full ones lol. Wooo it should be good. But my fridge looks like a frat house lol. Inside the drinks and hot dogs, and on top mac n cheese lol.
I picked Mae's room up, half assed, but you can see the floor lol. Though that leaves me with a HUGE tub of clothes to sort through and hang up..uck! Downstairs there are two baskets plus a third waiting that can be hung up right away. Did I mention i have a party to set up for lol.
I also have to scrub off the tables outside. Yea the rain this morning didnt help me as much as Id have liked lol.
So real soon we are off to WalMart and hopefully I dont over spend because maaaaaaaaan this turned into a production lol. Talking to Brigitte earlier she said you wanted a small event. I quickly corrected her and said no i wanted nothing to do with this lol but it was to be a small gathering which turned into an event which turned into a production lol.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Thursday, July 29, 2010
So I'm going to steal the theme from Dawn's blog, but only because she got her blog out before I got mine out lol. Soooo say it with me....PRODUCTION. Yes, this party is growing. And as the party grows so does the heather-do list.
What started out as 4 people has turned into a bunch of people. Now my mom is bringing over another table that I need to clean up and set up. The fun part is she is bringing her bag game. Soo we will have entertainment.
My friend Brigitte is now bringing walking tacos. I knew, just knew, that this would become a party. You can't just invite people over with just a bag of chips. Ok so you can, and it can be fun, but come on..who doesn't want a party lol.
I was talking to my friend Brigitte on the deck earlier and I figured out that I'm damn lucky when it comes to my core group of girlfriends. The 3 of them all get along. There are no issues between any of them or the kids, or the significant others. That's something hard to come by. I'm real glad that they get along.
So this party, production, driveheathercrazy monster is only going to be slowed down by one thing....RAIN. Here's hoping for no rain and that the extra hour of sleep I'm giving myself doesn't come back to bite me in the ass lol. Thankfully Tammy is coming over early to lend me a hand....
We are going to have a good time! Margaritas, bag, walking tacos, hot dogs, cheese dip, veggie tray, and birthday cake.....Breathe in Breathe out...relax your a big girl and you can do this!
What started out as 4 people has turned into a bunch of people. Now my mom is bringing over another table that I need to clean up and set up. The fun part is she is bringing her bag game. Soo we will have entertainment.
My friend Brigitte is now bringing walking tacos. I knew, just knew, that this would become a party. You can't just invite people over with just a bag of chips. Ok so you can, and it can be fun, but come on..who doesn't want a party lol.
I was talking to my friend Brigitte on the deck earlier and I figured out that I'm damn lucky when it comes to my core group of girlfriends. The 3 of them all get along. There are no issues between any of them or the kids, or the significant others. That's something hard to come by. I'm real glad that they get along.
So this party, production, driveheathercrazy monster is only going to be slowed down by one thing....RAIN. Here's hoping for no rain and that the extra hour of sleep I'm giving myself doesn't come back to bite me in the ass lol. Thankfully Tammy is coming over early to lend me a hand....
We are going to have a good time! Margaritas, bag, walking tacos, hot dogs, cheese dip, veggie tray, and birthday cake.....Breathe in Breathe out...relax your a big girl and you can do this!
There are alot of blogs out there about the horrible evil biomom, well ya know what, it cuts both ways! There are biodads out there who are no prize winners! Hell I sometimes think that if my ex would get a girlfriend or something he might be ok! He might be able to understand that calling me a bitch and telling Mae that her mom is being a bitch again IS NOT OK!
Welcome back to the on again off again saga of uber dick! Today we were supposed to go to a memorial for a guy I used to work with and who the kids dad worked with until the guy got too sick to work. I was a grump on the phone this morning. I wasn't a bitch, I wasn't attacking, I wasn't psycho crazy woman. I was just grumpy.
I had a long bad night last night between nightmares and Mae, add to that I had to work with the new girl(who i just found out quit after night1 lol) the alarm going off at 8 am was not a sound I was into.
I apologized for being grumpy! Like the second he got into my car. I apologized because I knew I was snappy and didn't want to deal with any bullshit drama today. We made it all the way to the grocery store and that was it. I guess I yelled at Mae...give me a fucking break...yelling is about the only thing that gets her little butt into gear. He started telling me what was what. I told him do not tell me what to do. It's not his place he needs to just shut it.
He continued and I was not dealing with it. So I didn't! I told Mae to get back in the car we were leaving. I WAS going to drop him off...then he dropped the bitch bomb. He looked down at Mae and told her let's go your mom is being a bitch again. Um hello?? Do you not remember the last time you called me a fucking bitch to Mae?? Obviously not! And after the tone of his voice and his yelling at me...I left his ass in the parking lot!
No I will not feel bad about that! I know this man! I know what he is capable of. I know the last time he was like that with me I got fucking hit while driving, he turned my car off, and hit me again. I am not his girlfriend, fuck buddy or anything that would give him the right to do anything to me. I was not giving him the opportunity. My opinion is he got comfortable and forgot to be on his good boy behavior.
Sooooooooooo now I am the psycho. I need to call the psych doc for me, I need to be medicated, I need to I need to I need to...all while he was blowing up my phone. Yes I hung up on him everytime because he was screaming at me. I wasn't screaming I was fighting off a freakin anxiety attack. He kept blowing up my phone and then when he did apologize the next thing out of his mouth was how I'm crazy and I never heard the rest because I hung right back up.
AGAIN he decides that my MOTHER will be his ally, his friend, his whatever. One of these days he will realize that the minute after he hangs up with her she is on the phone with me. COMPLAINING about him calling her! She wants ZERO to do with him. She DOES NOT want to help him in any way shape or form! What she does want is for him to stop calling her!
He thinks that we spend our time talking about him and bad mouthing him to Mae. Here's the thing...WE DO NOT TALK ABOUT HIM! When you aren't obsessed about someone, not in love with someone, not in like with someone, you don't talk about them or worry about what they are doing. Ooo wait I forgot we did talk about him a few weeks ago BUT we actually weren't talking about him we were talking about another friend of mine and his name was brought up because he is the other person not welcomed at my mom and dads lake house. Ooooo and guess what? Mae wasn't even around for that. But the bottom line is we don't trash talk him around Mae or not around Mae. The only time we bring his ass up is when he pulls some bullshit like today!
I don't know....I just wish he could get his shit together enough to be able to stay in Mae's life. As it is I had to explain to Mae that I left her dad because he was calling mommy nasty names and being disrespectful. AND THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I SAID...no more no less.
Now that I have that out of my system...I am on to enjoying my day off with Mae. We have movies to watch and fancy schmancy for supper. Tomorrow will be a real busy day with getting the house cleaned up so we can have our deck party. The booze is bought, the cake is ordered, the cheese is in the can, the hamburger is thawing....Wooohooo a nice Friday night....as long as the rain stays away lol.
Welcome back to the on again off again saga of uber dick! Today we were supposed to go to a memorial for a guy I used to work with and who the kids dad worked with until the guy got too sick to work. I was a grump on the phone this morning. I wasn't a bitch, I wasn't attacking, I wasn't psycho crazy woman. I was just grumpy.
I had a long bad night last night between nightmares and Mae, add to that I had to work with the new girl(who i just found out quit after night1 lol) the alarm going off at 8 am was not a sound I was into.
I apologized for being grumpy! Like the second he got into my car. I apologized because I knew I was snappy and didn't want to deal with any bullshit drama today. We made it all the way to the grocery store and that was it. I guess I yelled at Mae...give me a fucking break...yelling is about the only thing that gets her little butt into gear. He started telling me what was what. I told him do not tell me what to do. It's not his place he needs to just shut it.
He continued and I was not dealing with it. So I didn't! I told Mae to get back in the car we were leaving. I WAS going to drop him off...then he dropped the bitch bomb. He looked down at Mae and told her let's go your mom is being a bitch again. Um hello?? Do you not remember the last time you called me a fucking bitch to Mae?? Obviously not! And after the tone of his voice and his yelling at me...I left his ass in the parking lot!
No I will not feel bad about that! I know this man! I know what he is capable of. I know the last time he was like that with me I got fucking hit while driving, he turned my car off, and hit me again. I am not his girlfriend, fuck buddy or anything that would give him the right to do anything to me. I was not giving him the opportunity. My opinion is he got comfortable and forgot to be on his good boy behavior.
Sooooooooooo now I am the psycho. I need to call the psych doc for me, I need to be medicated, I need to I need to I need to...all while he was blowing up my phone. Yes I hung up on him everytime because he was screaming at me. I wasn't screaming I was fighting off a freakin anxiety attack. He kept blowing up my phone and then when he did apologize the next thing out of his mouth was how I'm crazy and I never heard the rest because I hung right back up.
AGAIN he decides that my MOTHER will be his ally, his friend, his whatever. One of these days he will realize that the minute after he hangs up with her she is on the phone with me. COMPLAINING about him calling her! She wants ZERO to do with him. She DOES NOT want to help him in any way shape or form! What she does want is for him to stop calling her!
He thinks that we spend our time talking about him and bad mouthing him to Mae. Here's the thing...WE DO NOT TALK ABOUT HIM! When you aren't obsessed about someone, not in love with someone, not in like with someone, you don't talk about them or worry about what they are doing. Ooo wait I forgot we did talk about him a few weeks ago BUT we actually weren't talking about him we were talking about another friend of mine and his name was brought up because he is the other person not welcomed at my mom and dads lake house. Ooooo and guess what? Mae wasn't even around for that. But the bottom line is we don't trash talk him around Mae or not around Mae. The only time we bring his ass up is when he pulls some bullshit like today!
I don't know....I just wish he could get his shit together enough to be able to stay in Mae's life. As it is I had to explain to Mae that I left her dad because he was calling mommy nasty names and being disrespectful. AND THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I SAID...no more no less.
Now that I have that out of my system...I am on to enjoying my day off with Mae. We have movies to watch and fancy schmancy for supper. Tomorrow will be a real busy day with getting the house cleaned up so we can have our deck party. The booze is bought, the cake is ordered, the cheese is in the can, the hamburger is thawing....Wooohooo a nice Friday night....as long as the rain stays away lol.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Do you recall me saying that when my mom does something it's a production from the last post? Well guess what?? It's turned into a big production! I knew it would, she said no it won't. I KNEW IT WOULD...can you hear the frustration??
Sooooo as far as I can tell at this moment in time, before the phone starts ringing for the day, and it starts getting bigger we are at 12 people so far. That's confirmed....12 people! Unconfirmed are 4 to 6 other adults, several kids, and 1 maybe. That is not a little get together!
THAT IS A PRODUCTION!! My mom is going to string white lights now, which I like but really? seriously!, she is maybe bringing the kiddie pool, buying a different deck set(possibly she has Lowes credit), we are now having brats on the grill(which I have to purchase), I'm making the cheese dip, I'm getting a birthday cake for my friend Tammy's son. I've known him his whole life, it's like Aunt Heather ya know?
But he is going to be 15 and needs to have his birthday awknowledged! Mom is going to get some beer and a veggie tray, and bring hopefully a couple of chairs.
I knew this was going to turn into a big fucking production. AND my favorite! You need to clean the house up. LIKE I DON'T ALREADY DO THAT!! Like we are still not in a state of fuckedupness because of the fixing up of the house. Poor Mae's room is still a disaster, the living room is worse, and I'm having a hard time keeping the bathroom and kitchen up to her standards.
Did you know that the ants my Grandpa has been getting in the house for ooo say the last 15 years, every single year....ARE MY FAULT!!! That the two empty soda cans, and the capped 3 empty soda bottles are what has brought them in?? That a garbage can that has empty cans in it it, in sacks is garbage that needs to be changed, EVEN THOUGH you can clearly see the garbage can for the garbage is empty?? Thank you Dad for stepping in on that one to set her a little straight. BUT the ants are still my fault!
Thank god my friend Kimmi who is coming is taking Mae to her dad's after our shindig because I think I may need to drink the bottle of margaritas lol.
Sooooo as far as I can tell at this moment in time, before the phone starts ringing for the day, and it starts getting bigger we are at 12 people so far. That's confirmed....12 people! Unconfirmed are 4 to 6 other adults, several kids, and 1 maybe. That is not a little get together!
THAT IS A PRODUCTION!! My mom is going to string white lights now, which I like but really? seriously!, she is maybe bringing the kiddie pool, buying a different deck set(possibly she has Lowes credit), we are now having brats on the grill(which I have to purchase), I'm making the cheese dip, I'm getting a birthday cake for my friend Tammy's son. I've known him his whole life, it's like Aunt Heather ya know?
But he is going to be 15 and needs to have his birthday awknowledged! Mom is going to get some beer and a veggie tray, and bring hopefully a couple of chairs.
I knew this was going to turn into a big fucking production. AND my favorite! You need to clean the house up. LIKE I DON'T ALREADY DO THAT!! Like we are still not in a state of fuckedupness because of the fixing up of the house. Poor Mae's room is still a disaster, the living room is worse, and I'm having a hard time keeping the bathroom and kitchen up to her standards.
Did you know that the ants my Grandpa has been getting in the house for ooo say the last 15 years, every single year....ARE MY FAULT!!! That the two empty soda cans, and the capped 3 empty soda bottles are what has brought them in?? That a garbage can that has empty cans in it it, in sacks is garbage that needs to be changed, EVEN THOUGH you can clearly see the garbage can for the garbage is empty?? Thank you Dad for stepping in on that one to set her a little straight. BUT the ants are still my fault!
Thank god my friend Kimmi who is coming is taking Mae to her dad's after our shindig because I think I may need to drink the bottle of margaritas lol.
Monday, July 26, 2010
My mother is going to be the death of me. She drives me insane and now I'm living under her roof.
She doesn't see her behavior no matter how many people call her on it. She doesn't want to hear what other people have to say, but then tells me to treat her like a customer. Um hello don't I already bow to her will enough?
When you tell her no I don't want to, she will badger you until you say yes. Then once you have given in and said yes she will badger you about not wanting to do it. Then get pissed off because your getting pissed off. I asked her what more do you want? I said no then I said yes. Why isn't it good enough for you. Or if you wanted to just tell me what to do....THEN FUCKING TELL ME WHAT TO DO! Don't pretend I have a choice in the matter.
I know it's not a big thing but I was napping on the couch before work, which i should be getting ready for, and she calls. I am not the friendliest person when I first wake up. She already knows that I've been dealing with Mae issues all day, it's not like I've had the greatest day. She doesn't want to hear when I'm having a rough I miss my Grandpa day. So all that compounded she comes along and asks , hear me ASKS if I want to invite people over. My friends who she hasn't seen in a while. When I'm like no, she's like well you had Jen(my cousin) over the other night.
WTF that was just impromptu. When mom does something she wants to make it something. I know how it is! Just sitting around the deck can turn into a big thing.She will want it just so and just right. Ya know what...if you want people over to sit with you because Mae and I aren't good enough...YOU INVITE THEM!
So being the good obedient daughter that I am...I made a facebook event and sent the invite to 3 people. The other couple don't have facebook so I'll have to call them. Which means I will have to go and get something to serve as an appetizer and tell them hey its byob but your invited.
My mom taught me that if you ask a question be prepared for No. Well I am and I do, but she doesn't and it's sooo aggravating to be the bad guy when I say no. I am allowed to say no, arent I?
She doesn't see her behavior no matter how many people call her on it. She doesn't want to hear what other people have to say, but then tells me to treat her like a customer. Um hello don't I already bow to her will enough?
When you tell her no I don't want to, she will badger you until you say yes. Then once you have given in and said yes she will badger you about not wanting to do it. Then get pissed off because your getting pissed off. I asked her what more do you want? I said no then I said yes. Why isn't it good enough for you. Or if you wanted to just tell me what to do....THEN FUCKING TELL ME WHAT TO DO! Don't pretend I have a choice in the matter.
I know it's not a big thing but I was napping on the couch before work, which i should be getting ready for, and she calls. I am not the friendliest person when I first wake up. She already knows that I've been dealing with Mae issues all day, it's not like I've had the greatest day. She doesn't want to hear when I'm having a rough I miss my Grandpa day. So all that compounded she comes along and asks , hear me ASKS if I want to invite people over. My friends who she hasn't seen in a while. When I'm like no, she's like well you had Jen(my cousin) over the other night.
WTF that was just impromptu. When mom does something she wants to make it something. I know how it is! Just sitting around the deck can turn into a big thing.She will want it just so and just right. Ya know what...if you want people over to sit with you because Mae and I aren't good enough...YOU INVITE THEM!
So being the good obedient daughter that I am...I made a facebook event and sent the invite to 3 people. The other couple don't have facebook so I'll have to call them. Which means I will have to go and get something to serve as an appetizer and tell them hey its byob but your invited.
My mom taught me that if you ask a question be prepared for No. Well I am and I do, but she doesn't and it's sooo aggravating to be the bad guy when I say no. I am allowed to say no, arent I?
Monday, July 19, 2010
Joy o Joy, it's almost time to get ready for work. But we made it back from my sister and my mom's house so that's good.
It was ungodly hot down there! Just looking out the window had you breaking out in a sweat. Hell drinking a beer at the restraunt I began to wonder if I was sweating so much that it was going in my beer. It was a very large beer lol.
But Myah turned 1, we cried because Grandpa wasn't there, we at a huge amount of food. And Mae came home with the shortest hair she's had since birth.
If your on my facebook you can see the picture. My god it's short. And I will be getting my money back for having to get it cut. I have such a hard time finding daycare and then this happens. Mom wants me to quit but she doesn't understand that if I quit that I'm not going to find another daycare. It's just not out there for people who work like I do. Or at least the best available isn't available. Oh well she will be back in school soon so we will have other things on our mind besides ok what's going to happen at daycare next.
I'm doing ok, just feeling a little blah. Katie will be turning 16 next month. I guess we're having the party in iowa. Mom was like can you help, I was like no mom I will not contribute anything to her party. DUH, of course I'll contribute where I can.
All in all it was a nice visit, but maaaan....I tell you what...not being the driver was a wonderful thing!
It was ungodly hot down there! Just looking out the window had you breaking out in a sweat. Hell drinking a beer at the restraunt I began to wonder if I was sweating so much that it was going in my beer. It was a very large beer lol.
But Myah turned 1, we cried because Grandpa wasn't there, we at a huge amount of food. And Mae came home with the shortest hair she's had since birth.
If your on my facebook you can see the picture. My god it's short. And I will be getting my money back for having to get it cut. I have such a hard time finding daycare and then this happens. Mom wants me to quit but she doesn't understand that if I quit that I'm not going to find another daycare. It's just not out there for people who work like I do. Or at least the best available isn't available. Oh well she will be back in school soon so we will have other things on our mind besides ok what's going to happen at daycare next.
I'm doing ok, just feeling a little blah. Katie will be turning 16 next month. I guess we're having the party in iowa. Mom was like can you help, I was like no mom I will not contribute anything to her party. DUH, of course I'll contribute where I can.
All in all it was a nice visit, but maaaan....I tell you what...not being the driver was a wonderful thing!
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